In Istikhara, as well, we must not think that whatever we have been directed towards is going to be problem free. Take for example : A girl is proposed to. She makes Istikhara. The Istikhara is positive. She feels satisfied, with an inclination to accept and she follows this inclination and accepts the proposal.
After some time, problems arise and the marriage breaks down. Such persons come back to us and say : “Maulana , when I made Istikhara and related the dream (or the feeling) that I had, then you told me that it is good and that I should proceed. Now why is it that the marriage didn’t last?”
Istikhara does not mean that the person will have a problem-free life. It means that at that time this was much better than perhaps marrying someone else. It was ‘the lesser of the two evils’. The problems being experienced presently could have been worse had she married another person.
It could also mean that at the time of Istikhara, this was good, but then again, this is no guarantee that the marriage will be successful, if after the Istikhara, the person leads any kind of life, indulges in any Haraam he or she wishes to and displeases Allah Ta’ala and Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) . It does not give a license to both, husband and wife, to watch plenty of filth on television, read any sort of literature, neglect Salaah and then ignorantly and foolishly say : “We made Istikhara, therefore it must work out.” ... It does not work like that.
So perhaps, that Istikhara meant that that was ‘better than’, probably another person she would have married. Here again arises Tafweez : If the person made Tadbeer i.e. made use of the means that Allah Ta’ala has created, but after doing so, the marriage fails, then she adopts Tafweez; accepting that this is the will of Allah Ta’ala, and He knew before hand that this is how the marriage would end.
She knows that both, she and her husband, did not purposely do those things which were contrary to Shariah or against the normal effort that a person should put in. They tried to the best of their ability but it failed ... now this is Tafweez : “ Whatever Allah Ta’ala is happy with, then I too am happy with that.” This understanding immediately brings consolation and peace to the heart. The person’s depression will disappear.